What is usually a guarded, taboo topic is a thought I would like to bring to the openthe subject of how to make “friends-with-benefits” work.Since the best way is the easiest way, why not have meaningless sexual encounters with the opposite sex without fear of an actual relationship coming together? It is normal to not have a relationship, but sometimes you feel left out. You waste your time looking for someone to connect to when deep down, you only need someone to fill your sexual voids. “Friends-with-benefits” is a good thing for college students today. It will be the greatest thing to happen to you. Start by choosing a member of the opposite sex. Hey! Maybe you like to shop on the other side of the aisle, so pick a member of the same sex–whatever will increase your sexual experience. Flirting will not happen within a crowd, so movie dates and late night talk sessions in someone’s bedroom usually always leads to favorable outcomes.Get things private and keep them private! Whatever happens is your own personal business. The privacy of the bedroom is enough of an aphrodisiac to bring down any walls of inhibition. Then let the space between you two disperse. Maybe it’s chilly and you only have one blanket so you have to share. Move in closer to one another using the “cuddle technique”. Men, wrap your arm around her waist–the other party likes when you are in control. Lay your arm in the safe zone, tummies or shoulders.Continue to talk. Conversations are the front door to enter into the next phase. Light talk about the day will wear the other person thin. Talk openly about what you generally look for in your ideal person and what gets you excited. Incorporate facts about the other person into what you are looking for. Sure, they might not be your type, but do not forget the goal of the mission; tonight is all about your sexual voids. Movies handle the lulls in the conversations. Avoid sappy romantic moviesthey don’t work in this situation.See where you stand with this person. Here is a good point to see if you should further advance into the “friends-with-benefits” zone. If you feel that you are inthen go for it. Take baby steps at firstdon’t scare the person away. Back massages usually break the ice, but try stroking. Rubbing the arms or neck while both of you are laying down puts you in the ideal position for entrance into the next phase. Then after you complete your objective, this is where I start to lay down the ground rules on how to make friends-with-benefits work over a long haul. One-night stands make you feel cheap, but having friends-with-benefits let’s you know exactly what you are getting into. Try these tips to stretch the length of the friendship.Number one: No calling the day after. You will leave yourself vulnerable. It makes you look like the one looking for a relationship. Number two: Sleeping over is optional. It is not obligated, but sometimes you will be too tired to walk/drive homeat least if you did your job right.Number three: Don’t leave personal belongings over at the person’s room. This seems like you will come back. Avoid growing closerthese nights are for your benefit. Number four: Don’t go from a public non-hugging relationship to a public hugging relationship. It will seem like you two are an item when you aren’t.Number five: AOL Instant Messenger and e-mail will keep the awkwardness to a minimal. Talking on the phone will lead to silence, which will seem like something is wrong or something is brewing. Number six: Squash all talks of the both of you hooking up. You, yourself, are much too fragile, busy and not secure in yourself enough to be with the other person on a deeper level. Friendship and sex can co-exist. You can both enjoy your time together and fill your needs at the same time.A hard part for many people is how to start the night. Usually you forget the easiest way to get in touch with your friend (no pun intended), the booty call. It sounds funny but that is how the night starts out. The calling to someone at night for one sole benefit. I am trying to help you with keeping a friends-with-benefits going. Try to keep the friendship as one sided as possible. No avoidance in public the day after. The main reason this great friendship ends is because one of the parties lets their conscience speak for them. Their conscience is lead to stop you from what you needit doesn’t operate like it is supposed to. If things fall through it was the other person’s fault.Use these tips, modify them, and sit down with the person and see if you can agree on this, because friends-with-benefits relationships are much better for your self esteem then an actual relationship. When things go, wrong it is easier to let the person go because there will be no actual feelings for the person. You will use each other completely for your own benefits. Remember: don’t leave until you are satisfied.